After
a spectacular performance at the Schaubühne the other night, I
decided to make my way home alone instead of travelling with the
group. Going alone gives me time to think, look at things, and, best
of all, people watch.
With
this goal in mind, I opted for a seat in the center of the car
instead of a corner, where I usually prefer to sit. Immediately I
noticed a woman sitting and talking (rather loudly) on her cell
phone. I enjoyed her voice and accent, so I sat there a while
watching her as her face animated with her half of the conversation.
This went on for a couple minutes, until the man next to her
misinterpreted my staring, asked her if she wouldn't mind talking
quieter, and then smiled and gave me a quick nod of acknowledgement
of the "favor" he just did for me. I sat in silence for a
couple stops until she got off, and a homeless man stepped on.
He
was selling a newspaper featuring art and literature. He was asking
for between 1 and 2 euro, and, as usual, most people were looking
away or otherwise ignoring him. Even I was avoiding looking at him
directly as I was listening to him. He went on for a while, then a
different man across from me started asking questions about the
paper. He asked why there wasn't a specified price, who the artists
were, and other things. He decided against buying a paper, because
the money was going to the homeless man, who got the papers for free
to deliver and sell at his own determined price.
In
the midst of this conversation, a man walked over, beer bottle in
tow, and told the homeless man off. He said that no one wanted to buy
the paper, that he was bothering everyone, and that he should just
go away and stop being a nuisance. The homeless man pointed out that
he was having a legitimate conversation and trying to make money to
eat, to which beer bottle guy didn't really have a coherent response.
The newspaper salesman and the intoxicated spokesman for the train
stepped off at the next stop and continued their argument as they
parted ways. The rest of the trip was spent in silence.
Little
conversations like these show the differences in German and American
culture when it comes to homelessness and interaction with strangers.
Here the homeless people seem to be pretty organized. There are some
bums, but a lot of them actually take to the streets every day, using
resources available to them, such as various newspapers they can get
for free, and attempt to make an honest living. People here tend to
ignore them as well, but, if their curiosity is piqued, they will
ask questions. Germans seem more likely to talk to strangers if
they're doing something annoying, questionable, or interesting.
Drunkenness in public is a tolerated thing here, and so not every
interaction is all that enlightening, but people are at least
interacting. I feel like the general tendency is not to talk to
strangers in the US. If someone is being slightly obnoxious, a
conversation may be exchanged with glances between victims, but it's
pretty rare for anyone to say anything unless it turns into a
dramatic event. It would be kind of nice if Americans loosened up a
bit and let go of the need to be so closed off and proper acting in
public places and just talked to the people around them.